Negativity can become a safety blanket if you aren’t careful, it’s important to know how you are going to tackle it before you find yourself wrapped up in it. When I received a Graham Cooke email (Brilliant Perspectives) about overcoming negativity I thought it was a great opportunity to share these 3 easy tips and introduce you to his great mind and inspiration.
“A mind set on the negative will kill everything it touches. It is hostile towards God and leads to death.” – Graham Cooke
#1: Ditch The Trash Talk Right From The Start
Not every thought is from your own mind, the enemy we need to watch is a spirit and can sound like your own thoughts. Keeping a careful watch on the thoughts that come through will give you the opportunity to identify those you don’t want to agree with. I’ll talk about how you can embrace God’s thoughts in #3. Just because a thought crosses your mind doesn’t mean you have to give it a home.
This takes practice and really getting down to evaluating whether or not any particular thought represents the person you want to be. Who cares about who you’ve been, who other people think you are or even who you think you are. What really matters is the person you want to be and making the small or large adjustments in your thoughts to aim for that goal.
Just because a thought crosses your mind doesn’t mean you have to give it a home.
#2: Don’t Wait For Your Feelings To Line Up
Emotions come and go, they don’t always mean something this is where you have control over whether or not to own them. Many things influence your emotions but let’s not allow a bad lunch ruin your marriage. There comes a point in time when you can do better. Not just taking control but participating in God’s rest.
“Every time we experience a negative, it is an opportunity to be led by the Spirit and dwell in the place that God has set aside for us.” – Graham Cooke
This is where you acknowledge the emotion is there but make a decision to partner with God regardless. You may feel horrible, it may be the worst day of your life. But what have you got to lose? What if you, acknowledge how you feel, maybe even give yourself permission to feel that way and then invite God to take control?
If you wait for your feelings to line up and help you feel better you do two things: A) you give those negative feelings permission to grow and B) you encourage a habit of staying comfortable in your very own negative security blanket.
Acknowledge how you feel, maybe even give yourself permission to feel that way and then invite God to take control.
#3: Have A God Thought At Your Fingertips
As I mentioned earlier, not all the thoughts that pass through your mind are your own. Some are from God. These can be separated by knowing Him: He’s not condemning, He gives you His peace, He loves you, He’s a provider and He gives you rest. If a thought doesn’t line up with Him being a good God, it’s not from Him, that’s how easy it is. It’s going to take practice and taking the time to get to know His ways by reading the stories in His word.
But let’s talk about what you can do in the heat of the moment. Maybe it’s been a grueling day at work or you just got fired, what do you do next? Don’t wait for an emotional emergency to try to think rationally. Have a scripture ready: put it on your phone, keep it in your wallet or purse, wear it as a piece of jewelry or hang it on a wall.
I think this is so important I prepared a quick explanation on how to get yourself setup for this in Your 1:Minute Power Prayer. You can either click over to the post or when you sign up for my newsletter (Fresh Connection) you receive a copy instantly.
If a thought doesn’t line up with Him being a good God, it’s not from Him, that’s how easy it is.
Please share what you think about these 3 tips on beating negativity, I’d love to hear from you, in the comments below. If you’d like to read the article Graham Cooke wrote on this you can find it here, he’s been a great mentor to me as I’ve read his works and heard him speak over the years.